The Energy of Emotions
Hey everyone. I’m back again with another psychology/Law of Attraction post. This one is about our emotions, how to work through them, and how our emotional state affects our ability to manifest our desires. A lot of this post is also shadow work.
The energy of emotions
“Energy cannot be created nor destroyed it can only be changed from one form to another.”
You’ve heard people say that everything has energy, right? Our emotions have energy, too, and that’s what the word is broken down to. Emotions are energy in motion (e-motion). Energy cannot be created nor destroyed; it’s forward-moving. So when we feel an emotion, we are feeling forward-moving energy.
Do you ever have moments where you feel a (usually negative) emotion so strongly that you can’t help but release it at that moment? You can’t hold in the sadness or anger because you feel like you may burst. Maybe someone said something that deeply hurt you, or you saw something that triggered a core fear/wound. You felt those feelings so strongly that there was no holding it back. That was fast and forward-moving energy. But when we suppress emotions, they get stored emotions in our bodies, and that causes disease (dis-ease).
Suppressing your emotions
When you suppress your emotions, you are storing them in your body. That shit builds up over time. (And trust me, it is so motherfucking hard to work through/feel emotions that you’ve kept suppressed for years). As stated before, energy cannot be created nor destroyed; it can only be changed from one form to another. Energy is forward-moving. If you don’t let the momentum of that emotion move through you, it will stay stuck in your body and cause dis-ease. That shows up as back pain, shoulder pain, fatigue, headaches, stomachache, etc. Once you can release that emotion, the dis-ease in your body will go away.
For example, in my life, a friend and I were going through a rough patch. For various reasons, within our conversations, I felt she might or would end the friendship. That brought up a core fear/wound of mine. During one of our many conversations where we were trying to work through things, she sent me a message about how our friendship might not “be a good fit” and that she’s “uncomfortable around me.” Her feelings are entirely valid, but reading those messages almost broke me. Even though she wasn’t ending the friendship at that moment, it felt like she already did, and that shit motherfucking hurt. I remember bursting into tears when I read that message. There was no way to suppress that emotion. So, I just let myself feel whatever I was feeling. I cried. A lot. I talked to my Cel’s Royal Court GC. I made a funny IG reel. I even wrote out the message I would send to her (approved by the GC) if I felt like ending the friendship on my own terms would be easier. My mum had to go to the city the next day, and I knew I would be even more of an emotional wreck if I stayed home. So, in my sad/broken/scared/hurt state, I went to the city with her. That whole day, I listened to two songs on repeat. Lovely Needy People and Hungry (Falling On My Knees). Those songs were my only comfort that day. I prayed for this friend. I surrendered my feelings to The Divine/The Universe. I held on to the hope that our friendship would return to what it was before everything turned to shit, but I surrendered to the fact that either she would end the friendship or I would. Thankfully, our friendship has improved; at least, it feels that way to me. I no longer have panic attacks about seeing her, nor am I scared to open messenger in fear of a message from her. And now, whenever I hear Lovely Needy People, I pray for her.
Another example of this is in Avatar the Last Airbender. At the end of The Beach episode (S3E5), Zuko, Azula, Mae, and Ti-lee surround a bonfire. Zuko is obviously very angry, and the girls keep asking him why he’s angry. Eventually, he screams, “I’m angry at myself,” then he uses his firebending, and the bonfire erupts. That’s him releasing his anger. Then they ask him, “Why are you angry at yourself?” and his answer was, “Because I’m confused. I don’t know the difference between right or wrong anymore.” that’s the underlying reason for his anger. He then can work through feeling confused and not knowing the difference between right and wrong.
So, how do we work through our emotions, you ask? I’d love to tell you. One way is through the River and the Rock analogy.
River and the Rock
We are a free-flowing river. Our emotions are like rocks (or boulders) that disrupt the flow.
We take a rock/boulder (emotion). We become aware of it. We examine it. Why do I feel this way? Did this feeling start from something we were taught as a child? We acknowledge the feeling. We let it flow through us. We do inner child healing. We cry, scream, sing, and do whatever constructive thing* (meaning nothing self-destructive like self-injurious behaviour) that our body needs us to do to release that energy. And then we can let it go. We can surrender. Once we do that, we no longer have that specific rock in our river. We’re flowing better. We may have other rocks/boulders to examine, and maybe some rocks/boulders are the same or similar. But exploring and working through the emotion is the only way to release that energy so we can let go/surrender it.
For example, one emotion that was a rock in my life was guilt. But I never was at the state of being able to examine it and surrender it. I compartmentalised it, and that rock turned into a boulder over four to five years. So now that I am at a place where I can work through this emotion, it’s not easy. I have to sledgehammer pieces off, examine/surrender it because there’s no way to explore them all at once due to the size of the boulder. I have to give myself a lot of grace and space when doing this shadow work.
Remember, you are not your emotions.
“Everything is energy, and that is all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want, and you cannot help but get it. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy. This is physics.”
Because emotions are energy, energy is a vibration…a frequency. All emotions have a frequency that can be measured, as seen in the chart below.
If you are in a low vibration state, you will attract things vibrating at the same frequency. Life will mirror your feelings back to you. If you’re vibrating at the frequency of anger, you’ll find things in the world that make you angry. But once you release the anger, you can discover the underlying feeling behind it. You work through that, and as you do, you can move up the scale to pride and courage. Courage is the tipping point between positive and negative vibrations. Anything above courage is positive, and anything below courage is negative.
In my life, neutrality, willingness, and acceptance is the best baseline frequency for me to be in. This is what the book Letting Go — The Pathway of Surrender by David R. Hawkins, M.D., Ph.D., says about those two frequencies.
“Acceptance (350) - This energy is easygoing, laid back, harmonious, flexible, inclusive and free of inner resistance. “Life is good. You and I are good. I feel connected.” It meets life on life’s terms. There is no need to blame others or blame life.
Willingness (310) - This energy subserves survival by virtue of a positive attitude that welcomes all expressions of life. It is friendly, helpful, wants to assist and seeks to be of service.
Neutrality (250) - This is a way of life that is comfortable, pragmatic (realistic), and relatively free of emotionality. “It’s okay either way.” It is free of rigid positions, non-judgmental, and non-competitive.”
Now, you’re probably wondering, “How does any of this have to do with manifestations?” Great, I’d love to tell you. Once you’re in a positive vibrational state, anything from courage and above, your life will instantly improve. You will find that people are attracted to you and want to be around you. Things you want in life will come to you. But if you constantly vibrate at a lower state, you won’t be able to receive or manifest the things you want because you don’t match the frequency of those desires.
For example, when I was at university, my health turned to shit. I was in excruciating pain; I had to quit ballet and was in a wheelchair. I was also failing all my classes due to the meds I was on, causing extreme brain fog and taking away my ability to read, write, and comprehend what I was reading. I was constantly in a state of anger (150) and apathy (50). I was angry at my situation, angry at my friends who were able to do the things I wanted to do, and I was apathetic about my situation because I never believed things could get better and that no one could change my situation. I had some shitty experiences that led me to a state of guilt (30) and shame (20). As you can see, all the things I wanted would never have happened due to the super negative frequencies I was at.
But during the 2020 pandemic, my energies started to shift. I became happier; I was getting straight As in school and making new friends. My life got better and better. Over the past three years, the life I started to receive was the life I never once dreamed I could get. I finally got to the place of being my “higher self” — meaning who I am today is who I wanted to be when I was in my early 20s. That story proves your life can change for good once you get out of the low-frequency states. Yes, challenging situations do arise that lower my vibrations, but I know better ways to get out of that state.
I hope this post was informative for you. It was a much longer post than usual, but there is a lot to say about emotions and how they affect our lives. As always, don’t forget to like this post and follow me on all social media (links below). Sending you all the light and love in this world.
